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I wrote the following post last year, but as I find myself reading Maxwell’s book again, I thought I would share this again. I mentioned yesterday that I was planning on having my two oldest children (15 and 13) read this book. Maxwell was once asked which of his books he would recommend for younger students and this was his top choice (if memory serves). At any rate, the fact that I find myself reading it year after year around New Year’s speaks volumes to me. I really have found it to be a “go to” resource.

By the way, I also just started reading The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy, which hits on similar themes, but is by no means the same book as Maxwell’s. I hope to soon share some key ideas that I learn from that book soon.

Hope you find it helpful,
Dale

Key Ideas from Chapter 1 of John Maxwell’s Today Matters

Everything underneath my signature below comes directly from Chapter 1 of Maxwell’s book, Today Matters. I read it seven years ago and picked it up again last week and started reading it.

It’s a powerful book that emphasizes the importance of making and then managing daily choices. I have said often that the hardest part about life or about parenting is that it’s so daily. It’s that daily faithfulness and consistency and intentionality and discipline that enables us to make incremental, yet positive changes in our lives. Conversely, it’s the lack of faithfulness, consistency, intentionality, and discipline that moves us, ever so slowly, in the wrong direction in our lives.

Maxwell’s book does an excellent job of highlighting the various spheres of  life and shows us how we can add value in our own lives and in the lives of others in those spheres. It’s not a hard read at all. In fact, it takes no time to read through a chapter. However, don’t be tempted to “read for speed.” Take your time and ponder the ideas that he shares (and the great illustrations and examples).

I don’t want to twist Joshua’s words at the end of the biblical book that bears his name, but there is a real sense in which we must “choose this day” whom or what we will serve. And while Joshua was declaring that he and his household would serve (worship, obey, follow) the one true God, I think we can certainly say that each day are we called to wake up and “choose this day” what road we will walk down. And then, the next day, we have to wake up and choose yet again… and then do it. We must be purposeful and intentional. We can’t just go with the flow. We can’t just let others decide who we will be and what we will do. We must live our own lives and that living begins with intentional choices.

Enjoy the following key ideas from Maxwell. They are worth thinking about.

Grace and Truth,
Dale

The way you live today impacts your tomorrow.

The problem is that we want the rewards of success without paying the price.

“You don’t win an Olympic gold medal with a few weeks of intensive training,” says Godin. “There’s no such thing as an overnight opera sensation. Great law firms or design companies don’t spring p overnight… Every great company, every great brand, and every great career has been built in exactly the same way bit by bit, step by step, little by little.”

The truth is that people who do nothing more than wait for an opportunity won’t be ready to capitalize on one if it does appear. As basketball legend John Wooden says,” When opportunity comes, it’s too late to prepare.” And for those who receive their wish – of a promotion, start-up money or anything else – it rarely changes anything in the long term if they haven’t already done all the groundwork to be successful.

…real, sustainable change doesn’t happen in a moment. It’s a process.

Growth comes from making decisions and following through on them.

People create success in their lives by focusing on today. It may sound trite, but today is the only time you have. It’s too late for yesterday. And you can’t depend on tomorrow. That’s why today matters.

“Yesterday Ended Last Night.” …no matter how badly I might have failed in the past, it’s done, and today is a new day.

Hoping for a good future without investing in today is like a farmer waiting for a crop without ever planting any seed.

Benjamin Franklin asserted, time is “the stuff life is made of.” Today is the only time we have within our grasp, yet many people let it slip through their fingers. They recognize neither today’s value nor its potential.

If we want to do something with our lives, then we must focus on today. That’s where tomorrow’s success lies.

Here’s the missing piece: The secret of your success is determined by your daily agenda.

It all comes down on what you do today. When I talk about your daily “agenda,” I don’t mean your to-do list. …I’m focusing on something bigger. I want you to embrace what may be a whole new approach to life.

Make the Decision Once… Then Manage It Daily

If you make decisions in those key areas once and for all – and then manage those decisions daily – you can create the kind of tomorrow you desire. Successful people make right decisions early and manage those decisions daily.

Benjamin Franklin rightly observed, “One today is worth two tomorrows what I am to be, I am now becoming.”

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I love Today Matters by John Maxwell. I hope to have two of my children read it in 2013. Good stuff for all of us to think about…especially as we approach that time of year when we think about changes we’d like to make in our lives. Here’s a good list from Maxwell at the beginning of his book…

from Today Matters by John Maxwell

Just for Today…

Just for today… I will choose and display the right attitudes.

Just for today… I will determine and act on important priorities.

Just for today… I will know and follow healthy guidelines.

Just for today… I will communicate with and care for my family.

Just for today… I will practice and develop good thinking.

Just for today… I will  make and keep proper commitments.

Just for today… I will earn and properly manage finances.

Just for today… I will deepen and live out my faith.

Just for today… I will initiate and invest in solid relationships.

Just for today… I will plan for and model generosity.

Just for today… I will embrace and practice good values.

Just for today… I will seek and experience improvements.

Just for today… I will act on these decisions and practice these disciplines, and

Then one day… I will see the compounding results of a day lived well.

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I’m a “personal development” nerd. I love reading about goal-setting, time-management, etc. So, as you might guess, the New Year, with all of the resolution-making discussion, is practically a high holiday for me. Perhaps that’s why God needed to remind me this morning during my devotional time of my most important and constant resolution.

Jesus declared in his high priestly prayer (John 17) that eternal life is to know the one true God and his Son, Jesus Christ.

The word “know” means at least two things. First of all, it means that we “know about” God. It involves, necessarily, some content. We must believe that God is – that God really, truly, and ontologically is. We must embrace the idea that God exists outside of our own subjective desires and even needs.

Furthermore, we must know some information “about” God – who God is, his character, attributes, decrees, etc. This is not to suggest that our eternal destiny requires that we have a comprehensive understanding of the eternal and infinite God. We would all fail by that standard. However, I would suggest it does include seeking to know about God as God has revealed himself… as he really and truly is. (Of course, everything I just said regarding knowing about God the Father is also true of God the Son.)

The second part of knowing God (and his Son) includes, and even emphasizes, a personal and intimate relationship with God. It is because we first know “about” God that we are propelled to know, love, trust, and follow God. It is because we first know about God that we can begin to enjoy a real relationship him.

To be sure, knowing about God doesn’t guarantee this relationship, but I would say that it’s unlikely the relationship will develop without first knowing about God.* (Hebrews 11:6 reminds us that we must first believe that God exists before we can come to him.) As I said, this second understanding of knowledge is relational and must not be reduced to merely citing a few facts about God. Yet, as I mentioned, content “about” God is certainly assumed.

Now, what in the world does any of that have to do with my most important resolution for 2012? Check back tomorrow and I’ll answer that question.

Grace and Truth in 2012,
Dale

* For all of you astute theological scholars out there, I am only addressing one side of this issue. Yes, I do believe that no one will know God (relationally) without a prior work of God’s Spirit.

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This past Monday and Wednesday the men in our church’s men’s ministry studied the words of the Apostle Paul to his young son in the faith, Titus. In chapter three of the letter that bears his name, Titus was instructed to encourage the folks entrusted to his care to not be like the world around them – foolish, disobedient, deceived and enslaved by all kinds of passions and pleasures, living in malice and envy, being hated and hating (Titus 3:3). He then reminded them of something very important with these words: At one time we too were… just like that (that’s the Dale Tedder Paraphrase).

Paul told Titus that, because of God’s love, the redeeming work of Christ, and the renewing and washing work of the Holy Spirit, the Christians in Crete were no longer like the world around them.

That fact, very naturally, brought up a very painful question in our discussion: What if we still are? What if we’re still like the world around us? One possible answer to that question was even more painful: No change in your life may mean that you aren’t in Christ… that you haven’t been redeemed, washed, and renewed.

Of course we’re all at different places in our relationship with Christ. Added to that fact is that we all walk at different paces with him. We won’t all look alike. Yet, if we can’t look back in our lives a year ago, two years ago, five years ago and see some sort of growth and some level of maturation in faith, love, godliness, etc., then we may well need to ask the question: Am I truly in Christ? Of course, only God knows the heart and this isn’t about others judging you. But it is about each person doing an honest assessment of himself  or herself.

There’s no getting around the fact that true faith in Christ will result in a changed life. We can’t possibly remain the same.

About a year after I graduated from college I went back to school to visit with a few friends who were still there. I also returned to share with them the news that God had called me into ordained ministry and that I would head off to seminary soon. I was very excited. I was also a bit nervous. The reason? Well, I had not always lived the most godly life while in college. I knew it and I knew that my friends and fraternity brothers knew it.

What happened? Well, my closest friends thought my news was great and wished me well. Others laughed me out of the room. I absolutely deserved it.

I give glory to God, and God alone, that 23 years later I can point to real change in my life. And, as the old saying goes, while I’m not where I pray I will one day be in my faith, I’m not where I once was. I don’t know if I was the chief of sinners way back then, but I certainly was competing for the title. That fact makes these words from Paul all the more precious to me…

Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners – of whom I am the worst. But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life. (1 Timothy 1:15b-16)

If God could work in Paul’s life and in my life, then he can work in any and every person’s life. I praise God for the truth and power  of the Gospel of Jesus Christ to change lives.

So where are you now compared to where you once were? Do too many descriptions in the New Testament of the unbelieving world still describe you? Are you moving on to maturity with Christ, training yourself for godliness day by day. The progressive nature of growing in Christlikeness means that it will never end on this side of heaven. But faithfulness to Christ does require that we get  started. We start with rebirth. We continue after that to work out our salvation in and with the power and direction of the Holy Spirit and grace of God.

Has your life changed? Would folks who “knew you when” see that change?

Truth and Joy,
Dale

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Click here to read Part 1: Introduction 
Click here to read Part 2: Devotional Life
Click here to read Part 3: Intellectual Life

The recommended article to go along with these questions is a review with Paul Tripp and Timothy Lane about their book, How People Change at CCEF

1.      Do you feel you are a more accepting, forgiving, and loving person than you have been? ________ Expand:

2.      Do you feel you are stronger against temptations than you used to be (to be impatient, angry, greedy, lustful, etc.)? ________  Expand:

3.      How do you usually respond to sin in your life?

4.      Do you understand what it means to repent?________ Explain:

5.      What are the primary temptations and sins you find yourself struggling with?  Would you like help in fighting these as you seek to be obedient to God?

6.      Do you understand what it means to become Christlike and find your identity in Christ alone? ________ Expand:

7.      Is there anything in your life that you are putting before God? (your family, your comfort, your job, etc.)?

8.      When you fail, what happens within you?

9.      When you succeed, what happens within you?

10.  Do you worry or experience fear and anxiety often? ________ How do you respond?

Grace and Truth,
Dale

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by Dale Tedder
Based on a sermon preached February 27, 2011

  On the very first page of our United Methodist Book of Discipline, we are reminded of the mission of the United Methodist Church. Our mission is…

To make disciples of Jesus Christ for the transformation of the world.

 That’s why we’re here. That’s why Southside United Methodist Church exists. Our ultimate purpose is to glorify God and we do that by making disciples of his Son who will change the world with his Gospel.

Once again, I love the way our Discipline puts it. It says…

The local church provides the most significant arena through which disciple-making occurs. It is a community of true believers under the Lordship of Christ. It is the redemptive fellowship in which the Word of God is preached by persons divinely called and the sacraments are duly administered according to Christ’s own appointment. Under the discipline of the Holy Spirit, the church exists for the maintenance of worship, the edification of believers, and the redemption of the world.

 Amen! I love that mission and the language used to express it.

And who could argue that our world is presently in serious need of redemption? In Egypt, Iran, New Zealand, Libya, China, and in our country – just to name a few – we find overwhelming sin, devastation, unrest, brokenness, war, death, and more. The fallen, sinful, broken human condition is on display for all to see.

If ever the world-at-large needed faithful disciples of Jesus Christ to bring redemption, it’s now.

But it’s not just “over there,” is it? It’s here in our own backyard. It’s our own lives, our families, our workplaces, our local community. Every sphere of our lives needs the transforming power of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. That’s why we’re called to make faithful disciples of Jesus Christ.

I want to briefly share with you two stories. The first is about an incredibly tiny and seemingly insignificant group of people who began turning the greatest empire in the world (at that time) upside down with nothing more than the Gospel. The second story takes place about 1,700 years later. It involves another small group of people who, armed only with that same gospel, helped turn England upside down.

We’ll take a look at Story #1, next time.

Grace and Truth,
Dale

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by Dale Tedder 

Are you moving on to perfection? That’s a question asked to every ordained clergy person in the United Methodist Church. It’s a question of intent. It’s not asking if you’ve “arrived” but if it’s your intention to move in that direction. Our founder, John Wesley, believed it was important for Christians to be moving toward Christian maturity… toward the very likeness of Christ himself.

This is the time of year when we start thinking about changes we want to make in our lives. That’s natural since we are about to say goodbye to this year and hello to a new one. And, if we have any self-awareness at all, we know there are areas in our lives that, in some cases, need a little fine-tuning and in other cases, need complete renovation.

I recently read an article that said that we’re used to getting “physicals” so that we can determine how our physical health is. But, the author wondered, how often do we get “spirituals” to check out our spiritual health? About eight or nine years ago I put together a little pamphlet that I entitled, “Spiritual Life Checkup.” It consisted of a variety of questions to help folks in our Southside family assess how they were doing in their walk with Christ. It got a good response from those who took advantage of the opportunity of using it.

I thought it might be a good idea to pull that spiritual self-examination out of the archives, dust it off, tweak it a little, and make it available once again. As Minister of Discipleship at Southside, I sincerely want to educate, equip, and encourage you in your faith. I believe this is part of the process that God uses in our lives to move us toward growing in the likeness of Christ – both inwardly and outwardly.

John Wesley said there is no holiness (or Christlikeness) that is not social holiness. In other words, we seek to become more like Christ, not merely for ourselves, but also for the purpose of exhibiting the fruit of the Spirit in our daily relationships as well as serving and ministering to others.

Please let me know how I may serve you this year. Bible studies? Small groups? One-to-one discipleship? Spiritual direction? Pastoral counseling? I want, with all my heart, to be used of Christ in your lives. If there is any way in which I can help you move toward the likeness of Christ in your own life, please don’t hesitate to let me know.

PS – As soon as the new-and-improved Spiritual Life Checkup pamphlets are ready, we’ll let you know and make them available in the front office.

Grace and Truth,
Pastor Dale

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