Establishing Boundaries With Adult Kids

Here are a couple of good articles from the latest newsletter from Focus on the Family.

Enjoy,
Dale

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Enabling parents know that we live either smack dab in the middle of crisis or we’re simply in between crises, waiting for the other shoe to drop. Every time the phone rings at night, we are catapulted to a place of despair. Will it be our adult child in a drunken stupor, will it be the police or will it be the morgue?

Let’s look at these two ways we live, and what we need to do to stop enabling and set boundaries for our adult children:

1. In between crises.
2. In crisis mode.

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Also…

Staying Committed When You Don’t Feel Like It

We’ve all felt it: the “Hey, what about me?” syndrome. It sneaks up on us when we feel our emotional needs aren’t being met. Or maybe we’re tired of trying to make things work. That’s when “Hey, what about me?” hits. When we feel sorry for ourselves — or just plain tired of trying — what can we do?

Choose.

Choose to make wise decisions. Don’t rely on feelings when the going gets tough. Our feelings don’t carry us to the right decisions. 

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When Your Child Lies

from All Pro Dad…

Your child has just told a lie. Now what do you do? Author Dr. Scott Turansky says that breaking your child of the lying habit can be a challenge, but it is possible. He offers 10 guidelines for dealing with lying, including what to do if you think your child is lying, but you can’t prove it. The first three are:

 

1. Talk about reality and truth and how they are different from fantasy, wishes, possibility, pretend, and make believe.

 

2. When you sense a child is beginning to stray from the truth, stop them.

 

3. Give your children the benefit of the doubt.

 

For more details on the above three guidelines and to read about all ten, check out this article.

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To Spank or Not to Spank

by Brenda Nixon at Crosswalk.com

Spanking is a furiously debated issue and one that may begin for you in these early years. Parents, both for and against the practice, herald research and quote childrearing experts who support their position. I’ve met parents who are militant in their stance and condemn others for opposing views.

As a speaker, I’ve been criticized by a few audience members because I didn’t tell parents to spank as an act of love and godly parenting. Some Christian parents claim the Bible commands them to spank, while others believe less physical methods are equally loving and appropriate. Research is confusing; advice is conflicting. Who and what does a parent believe?

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