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I wrote the following post last year, but as I find myself reading Maxwell’s book again, I thought I would share this again. I mentioned yesterday that I was planning on having my two oldest children (15 and 13) read this book. Maxwell was once asked which of his books he would recommend for younger students and this was his top choice (if memory serves). At any rate, the fact that I find myself reading it year after year around New Year’s speaks volumes to me. I really have found it to be a “go to” resource.

By the way, I also just started reading The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy, which hits on similar themes, but is by no means the same book as Maxwell’s. I hope to soon share some key ideas that I learn from that book soon.

Hope you find it helpful,
Dale

Key Ideas from Chapter 1 of John Maxwell’s Today Matters

Everything underneath my signature below comes directly from Chapter 1 of Maxwell’s book, Today Matters. I read it seven years ago and picked it up again last week and started reading it.

It’s a powerful book that emphasizes the importance of making and then managing daily choices. I have said often that the hardest part about life or about parenting is that it’s so daily. It’s that daily faithfulness and consistency and intentionality and discipline that enables us to make incremental, yet positive changes in our lives. Conversely, it’s the lack of faithfulness, consistency, intentionality, and discipline that moves us, ever so slowly, in the wrong direction in our lives.

Maxwell’s book does an excellent job of highlighting the various spheres of  life and shows us how we can add value in our own lives and in the lives of others in those spheres. It’s not a hard read at all. In fact, it takes no time to read through a chapter. However, don’t be tempted to “read for speed.” Take your time and ponder the ideas that he shares (and the great illustrations and examples).

I don’t want to twist Joshua’s words at the end of the biblical book that bears his name, but there is a real sense in which we must “choose this day” whom or what we will serve. And while Joshua was declaring that he and his household would serve (worship, obey, follow) the one true God, I think we can certainly say that each day are we called to wake up and “choose this day” what road we will walk down. And then, the next day, we have to wake up and choose yet again… and then do it. We must be purposeful and intentional. We can’t just go with the flow. We can’t just let others decide who we will be and what we will do. We must live our own lives and that living begins with intentional choices.

Enjoy the following key ideas from Maxwell. They are worth thinking about.

Grace and Truth,
Dale

The way you live today impacts your tomorrow.

The problem is that we want the rewards of success without paying the price.

“You don’t win an Olympic gold medal with a few weeks of intensive training,” says Godin. “There’s no such thing as an overnight opera sensation. Great law firms or design companies don’t spring p overnight… Every great company, every great brand, and every great career has been built in exactly the same way bit by bit, step by step, little by little.”

The truth is that people who do nothing more than wait for an opportunity won’t be ready to capitalize on one if it does appear. As basketball legend John Wooden says,” When opportunity comes, it’s too late to prepare.” And for those who receive their wish – of a promotion, start-up money or anything else – it rarely changes anything in the long term if they haven’t already done all the groundwork to be successful.

…real, sustainable change doesn’t happen in a moment. It’s a process.

Growth comes from making decisions and following through on them.

People create success in their lives by focusing on today. It may sound trite, but today is the only time you have. It’s too late for yesterday. And you can’t depend on tomorrow. That’s why today matters.

“Yesterday Ended Last Night.” …no matter how badly I might have failed in the past, it’s done, and today is a new day.

Hoping for a good future without investing in today is like a farmer waiting for a crop without ever planting any seed.

Benjamin Franklin asserted, time is “the stuff life is made of.” Today is the only time we have within our grasp, yet many people let it slip through their fingers. They recognize neither today’s value nor its potential.

If we want to do something with our lives, then we must focus on today. That’s where tomorrow’s success lies.

Here’s the missing piece: The secret of your success is determined by your daily agenda.

It all comes down on what you do today. When I talk about your daily “agenda,” I don’t mean your to-do list. …I’m focusing on something bigger. I want you to embrace what may be a whole new approach to life.

Make the Decision Once… Then Manage It Daily

If you make decisions in those key areas once and for all – and then manage those decisions daily – you can create the kind of tomorrow you desire. Successful people make right decisions early and manage those decisions daily.

Benjamin Franklin rightly observed, “One today is worth two tomorrows what I am to be, I am now becoming.”

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I love Today Matters by John Maxwell. I hope to have two of my children read it in 2013. Good stuff for all of us to think about…especially as we approach that time of year when we think about changes we’d like to make in our lives. Here’s a good list from Maxwell at the beginning of his book…

from Today Matters by John Maxwell

Just for Today…

Just for today… I will choose and display the right attitudes.

Just for today… I will determine and act on important priorities.

Just for today… I will know and follow healthy guidelines.

Just for today… I will communicate with and care for my family.

Just for today… I will practice and develop good thinking.

Just for today… I will  make and keep proper commitments.

Just for today… I will earn and properly manage finances.

Just for today… I will deepen and live out my faith.

Just for today… I will initiate and invest in solid relationships.

Just for today… I will plan for and model generosity.

Just for today… I will embrace and practice good values.

Just for today… I will seek and experience improvements.

Just for today… I will act on these decisions and practice these disciplines, and

Then one day… I will see the compounding results of a day lived well.

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This past Monday and Wednesday the men in our church’s men’s ministry studied the words of the Apostle Paul to his young son in the faith, Titus. In chapter three of the letter that bears his name, Titus was instructed to encourage the folks entrusted to his care to not be like the world around them – foolish, disobedient, deceived and enslaved by all kinds of passions and pleasures, living in malice and envy, being hated and hating (Titus 3:3). He then reminded them of something very important with these words: At one time we too were… just like that (that’s the Dale Tedder Paraphrase).

Paul told Titus that, because of God’s love, the redeeming work of Christ, and the renewing and washing work of the Holy Spirit, the Christians in Crete were no longer like the world around them.

That fact, very naturally, brought up a very painful question in our discussion: What if we still are? What if we’re still like the world around us? One possible answer to that question was even more painful: No change in your life may mean that you aren’t in Christ… that you haven’t been redeemed, washed, and renewed.

Of course we’re all at different places in our relationship with Christ. Added to that fact is that we all walk at different paces with him. We won’t all look alike. Yet, if we can’t look back in our lives a year ago, two years ago, five years ago and see some sort of growth and some level of maturation in faith, love, godliness, etc., then we may well need to ask the question: Am I truly in Christ? Of course, only God knows the heart and this isn’t about others judging you. But it is about each person doing an honest assessment of himself  or herself.

There’s no getting around the fact that true faith in Christ will result in a changed life. We can’t possibly remain the same.

About a year after I graduated from college I went back to school to visit with a few friends who were still there. I also returned to share with them the news that God had called me into ordained ministry and that I would head off to seminary soon. I was very excited. I was also a bit nervous. The reason? Well, I had not always lived the most godly life while in college. I knew it and I knew that my friends and fraternity brothers knew it.

What happened? Well, my closest friends thought my news was great and wished me well. Others laughed me out of the room. I absolutely deserved it.

I give glory to God, and God alone, that 23 years later I can point to real change in my life. And, as the old saying goes, while I’m not where I pray I will one day be in my faith, I’m not where I once was. I don’t know if I was the chief of sinners way back then, but I certainly was competing for the title. That fact makes these words from Paul all the more precious to me…

Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners – of whom I am the worst. But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life. (1 Timothy 1:15b-16)

If God could work in Paul’s life and in my life, then he can work in any and every person’s life. I praise God for the truth and power  of the Gospel of Jesus Christ to change lives.

So where are you now compared to where you once were? Do too many descriptions in the New Testament of the unbelieving world still describe you? Are you moving on to maturity with Christ, training yourself for godliness day by day. The progressive nature of growing in Christlikeness means that it will never end on this side of heaven. But faithfulness to Christ does require that we get  started. We start with rebirth. We continue after that to work out our salvation in and with the power and direction of the Holy Spirit and grace of God.

Has your life changed? Would folks who “knew you when” see that change?

Truth and Joy,
Dale

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Click here to read Part 1: Introduction 
Click here to read Part 2: Devotional Life
Click here to read Part 3: Intellectual Life

The recommended article to go along with these questions is a review with Paul Tripp and Timothy Lane about their book, How People Change at CCEF

1.      Do you feel you are a more accepting, forgiving, and loving person than you have been? ________ Expand:

2.      Do you feel you are stronger against temptations than you used to be (to be impatient, angry, greedy, lustful, etc.)? ________  Expand:

3.      How do you usually respond to sin in your life?

4.      Do you understand what it means to repent?________ Explain:

5.      What are the primary temptations and sins you find yourself struggling with?  Would you like help in fighting these as you seek to be obedient to God?

6.      Do you understand what it means to become Christlike and find your identity in Christ alone? ________ Expand:

7.      Is there anything in your life that you are putting before God? (your family, your comfort, your job, etc.)?

8.      When you fail, what happens within you?

9.      When you succeed, what happens within you?

10.  Do you worry or experience fear and anxiety often? ________ How do you respond?

Grace and Truth,
Dale

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The beginning of a new year is always a fitting time (though not the only time) to spot those areas in your life that need tweaking a bit (or perhaps significant changing).

Of course, the biblical position is that a changed heart through the regeneration of the Holy Spirit must come first. But, as I heard Paul Tripp say recently, the evidence of a changed life is a… (are you ready for this profound thought)… a changed life.

Yet the question remains: Why don’t some folks change (assuming that they want to)? Why does it seem that there are obstacles standing in the way of their growth? Rick Thomas offers a couple of helpful answers to those questions in his fine post over at Competent Counseling. Here’s an excerpt…

If God’s grace is sufficient, which it is. If God is able to change me, which He is. If the Spirit can empower me to change, which He can. If God’s Word is sufficient, which it is. Then the big question is…
Why do I not change for my betterment and His glory? …if God is for me?
Any discipler who has discipled for any length of time has asked this question. Let’s be more specific: when I don’t change for the better, my wife has to ask this question: why not?
As we filter this question through the lens of Scripture we come up with at least two answers:

You can click here to read Rick’s two answers to this dilemma.

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