YOU want to date MY daughter?

from my new  blog, Pursuing Godly Manhood

I once heard a pastor say something along these lines: “I wouldn’t let a stranger drive my car… so why would I let him drive off with my daughter?” Good question.

Someone who had the opportunity to think a great deal about daughters and dating is Dennis Rainey, from the ministry, Family Life. Rainey became famous (or, perhaps better, infamous) in his community for interviewing his four daughter’s perspective dates. I just started reading his book, Interviewing Your Daughter’s Date: 8 Steps to No Regret, in which he shares the “why” and “how” of his interviewing philosophy.

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Guarding Our Daughter’s Moral Purity

A nervous father interviews his daughter’s date.

by Dennis Rainey at

I was seated at my desk, barely able to concentrate. I shifted papers, opened drawers, glanced out the window. Shifted papers, opened drawers, glanced out the window. Shifted papers … I felt like I was expecting an important phone call and was just trying to do something, anything, productive while waiting. But it wasn’t working.

Neither was I.

Finally, my executive assistant informed me that the young man I’d been expecting was waiting for me in the lobby.

Deep breath, Dennis. You’re the adult here. You can do this. I was about to interview the first of many young men who wanted a date with one of my daughters.

I stood to my feet and walked across the room, still amazed at how nervous I was as I stepped into the lobby to meet Kevin—the only person in the building more anxious and ill at ease than I.

“Afternoon, Kevin, glad you could make it.”

“Hello, Mr. Rainey.”

“How about we get something from the Coke machine. I hear you’re a Dr. Pepper man.”

“Yes, sir.”

Riding a very thin wave of forced, uncomfortable chitchat, I deposited enough quarters to dislodge a cold can for him and a Diet Coke for me. Then, not wanting to be the Ultimate Intimidator, I suggested we go outside and chat in the parking lot. That’s where he showed me his motorcycle—which wasn’t exactly how I wanted Ashley to go out on her first date!

I popped the tab on my soft drink and looked squarely into the same eyes that enjoyed looking at my sixteen-year-old daughter. We began with the basics. I asked him about school, his mom and dad and family, interests—just a general get-to-know-you type of conversation.

Click here to read the whole article/interview.

Click here to get Rainey’s book, Interviewing Your Daughter’s Date

Here is Reb Bradley’s sample application to court his daughter. (this is a real one)

Here is a very funny application to date someone’s daughter. I think the questions seem quite reasonable. I just might use it.